<i></i> <i></i> <i></i> 0<p>Well girls, it is the moment you’ve all (not) been waiting for. The deliverance of truth that is oh-so-ugly. We all know the painstaking details involved in fortifying a healthy relationship, but each strength carries some ugly truths that are more often than not brushed under the rug. These following facts are only too real about us, ladies. And that means no reason to hang your head in shame considering most of these effects are naturally intertwined into our thinking. But they still make for some knockers that are bound to give you second thoughts about YOUR niceness. Go figure.</p> <h2>You don’t feel the need to question his motives</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-1-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>All of us girls have been there. Marred with a past of trust issues and severe emotional whiplashes, you had effectively concluded at this point that all men are pigs. They are liars, cheats, and culprits of the highest order, or so it seemed. It turns out this one man in your life went against the status quo and became all that you ever sought in a guy. Things do turn out for the best in the end, it seems. And the guy you have, he is well and truly a goldmine if he proves you wrong when you question his motives time and time over.</p> <h2>The disappointment is real (but never falls through)</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-2-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>Your past has had ample men who were colorfully distasteful. Often being left disappointed, or with a sour taste in your mouth, you were broken, to say the least. And in your head, why should’ve your newfound relationship been any different? But the pain and disappointment never showed up and what you got instead was more than you ever asked for, uninhibited and unrequited love that makes our insides go warm and fuzzy.</p> <h2>You never trust him (When you should’ve!)</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-3-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>Trust is a strange mechanism. It exists where it shouldn’t and vice versa. With a rich history that is filled to the brim of broken promises and trust, you feel guarded enough not to open your trust to anyone this time around. But lo and behold, for this one guy keeps prying open the gate to your heart with his crowbar if trusty presence. Keeping his promises is just one of the many reasons this guy really is the one for you.</p> <h2>You’re feistier than he will ever be</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-4-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>You know you’ve played around aplenty for all the wrong reasons. You may have even bettered your adversaries (read: girlfriends) in the great game of hook, fish, and release. Despite knowing just how well the game has to be played and its rules, you still end up with a guy who isn’t intent on playing around at all. The fact that you are not at the very least a game to him means so much in itself. It helps even more if he shows you the game everyone is playing, just to be grounded and honest with you. He’s a keeper.</p> <h2>He is the perfect deal compared to your history</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-5-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>You feel like the complete letdown in front of him as your past doesn’t hold a candle of niceness to what he is now. You not only realize that you do injustice to his awesomeness but also feel like crap because of all that you’ve missing out on with this amazing human being. Being exposed to a barrage of toxicity in relationships over the past, You are left to ponder if life is really so unfair to you all along and for what reasons. They say life’s a b for a reason, girl.</p> <h2>Unwarranted apologies</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-6-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>You are not exactly accustomed to having the men in your life apologize to you. All the other works of art you dated thought they were exempted from apologies, so you stopped expecting men to admit their faults when it comes to relationships. But this guy is not like everyone else. Regardless of who was more at fault, he never shies away from apologizing without you ever having to ask for it.</p> <h2>His emotional understanding is a missing jigsaw piece</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-7-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>He never forces you to do anything you might not be comfortable in doing naturally. He knows that you can’t ask for things, in fact, you have to earn them. He wants to deserve you and all your efforts, rather than blackmail them out of you. All the emotionally manipulative guys you have come across in your past are well, a thing of the past. Mr. Right is patient with you and willing to slacken his pace for you, happy with whatever you can offer him willingly.</p> <h2>He is always conducive to fixing fights</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-8-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>In all your previous relationships, all the apologies had to come from you while all that your significant other had to say would be asking you to either deal with it or walk away. This meant that all your issues were swept under the rug, rather than be catered to as you deserved. However, this time around, you have landed yourself a true gem. Not only does he want to resolve any issues that could be hampering the growth of your relationship, but is also willing to compromise and actively take part in the entire process. Your happiness and contentment are important to him, and he does not want you to resent him in the long run, which is why he’s adamant about not letting any conflicts come between the two of you.</p> <h2>He is nice without reciprocation</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-9-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>He doesn’t love you on the condition that his feelings are met with love. He loves you just because he wants to, without expecting anything in return. Whether you snap at him on a particularly bad day or are unconsciously being cold to him, nothing can hamper his feelings of genuine love and care for you. He loves you whether you reciprocate his feelings or not, making him even more worthy of your love than ever.</p> <h2>He is an honest pot of gold</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-10-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>All your previous relationships have involved people loving you only to serve their own purposes. They lied to get what they wanted and cheated when they couldn’t get their hands on it. They would go to whatever lengths to service their agenda, without giving a second thought to your feelings. However, you can tell that this guy is different. While he would never put himself in a position where he has to lie to you, even if he is caught in one, he respects you enough never to belittle you with a lie.</p> <h2>He means everything to you</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-11-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>He means the absolute world to you. You have never found yourself to be this attached and emotionally invested in a person before. In light of this relationship, all your other relationships seem shallow and bound to end. On the other hand, you know what you have is real, and that both scares and excites you.</p> <h2>The respect is real</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-12-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>From making small but noticeable gentlemanly efforts like opening doors to never making you wait, respect has different many forms and faces. Someone who truly values you also respects your opinions and will constantly ask for your advice when making life decisions. While he might not always go for what you were saying, him asking you to pitch in your piece of advice says that he thinks of you as a smart and capable woman, worthy of his respect.</p> <h2>There are off times for you</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-13-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>He understands that no matter how hard he tries to make you happy, you’re human and can’t help having a few bad days strewn between the innumerable good days he makes happen. In his loving eyes, you don’t need to be happy to be special or worthy of his time and attention. While he loves it when you’re happy, his affection doesn’t stop based on how your mood is. He knows that loving someone when they’re happy is the easy bit, it is loving someone when they’re being difficult that really seals the deal!</p> <h2>He radiates happiness</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-14-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>This is one of the greatest signs you will get of him being ‘the one.’ He is good to you in ways that you never thought were humanly possible. He does not only want what is best for you but also tries his best to make sure you get it. The man you marry needs to be not only loving but also selfless enough to be able to put your needs in front of his if the time comes. He accepts your interests as his and is as supportive as possible when it comes to your life decisions. The happiness he exudes coupled with all the support he showers you with makes you happier on your own and ad a couple as well!</p> <h2>He is the hot cup of cocoa you need to relax</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-15-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>No matter what sort of a day you have been having, the moment you see him you immediately feel better and know that things are going to start looking up. He is exactly what you need to unwind after a hard day. He listens to what has got you down and his positivity coupled with his great advice and calming presence gives you hope that everything is going to get better. A partner with a positive influence ensures not only a great relationship but also a great life. You are decidedly better with him than without him.</p> <h2>There is some next level bonding</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-16-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>Emotionally, mentally and physically, you two are phenomenally compatible on all levels. The connection between you two is so commendable that everything else seems insignificant. Everything you do with him carries profound meaning. Whether you’re grabbing a quick bite or doing everyday chores, as long as you’re with him you’re happy.</p> <h2>He’s your go-to person</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-17-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>Whenever you map out your future, he is an imperative part of it, just like you are a part of his future. The idea of spending all of your life with him never scares you, in fact, it is something you look forward to greatly. Every time something happens, no matter how trivial or insignificant, he is the first person you want to tell. From what you had for dinner to what your favorite song is right now, you want him to know everything and be as involved in each other’s life as possible.</p> <h2>You fight but you love more</h2> <img src="https://cdnone.netlify.com/db/2017/10/d-drafting-3-10-2241-18-jpg.jpeg"/>Shutterstock.com <p>No matter what the problem, you love him too much to hurt him in any way. Instead of hanging onto trivial arguments, you want to resolve things and compromising for him seems like a great deal rather than a sacrifice. You just want to reach a decision that makes the both of you happy, because while you might want something, you will always value making him happy more.</p> <i></i>